Always Consider The Source!

when someone deems themselves fit to judge you, consider the source and remember only One opinion matters! perhaps the worst kind of ignorance is someone who thinks they know your situation even though they haven’t walked a day in your shoes.
don’t let anyone, other than The One, dictate your worth!

Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. Romans‬ ‭8:17‬

It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption. 1 Corinthians‬ ‭1:30‬

see also:
Own It!
Prime Time


Be The Light

as Christians we are called to love everyone and show kindness to whomever crosses our path but we need to be careful about those we call friends and those we choose to spend our time with. there’s a very thin line between being the light in someone’s life and them being the one to dim yours… watch out!

“You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
Matthew‬ ‭5:13-16‬

Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭15:33‬

see also:
Bad Medicine

“If we were here to be obedient, wouldn’t Jesus have been delighted with the religious leaders of his day?” ~Susan Cottrell

wOw! in my opinion beautifully stated! 

to me, this really drives home ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:1-3‬:
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Susan Cottrell is dedicated to “helping LGBTQI heal from family, religious and community wounds; and helping those in the faith community love and include.”

her entire article follows:

“One of the biggest lies perpetrated throughout Christendom is that God is primarily interested in our obedience. Not true. Patently false.

To say our first responsibility to God is to obey is a big fat lie and distortion of the relationship God wants with us. God’s paramount interest in us is a relationship. Didn’t Jesus say simply, “Follow me!”?

How quickly we complicate things by adding cherry-picked list of right and wrong behavior and focus our attention on that. By the way, focusing on EITHER list is still eating from the same tree – the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, instead of focusing on the Tree of Life.

Let’s say that a couple is about to have their first child, and you say to them conversationally, “What is most exciting to you about having a baby?” and they answer, “Making sure this child obeys!” You’d be shocked. Really? That is the main point in having a child?

You would wisely identify that something is seriously wrong, and you would suggest they run, not walk, to a qualified therapist who could help them unravel this unhealthy obsession with power and rule.

The amazing thing about bringing a baby into the world is the new life this person gets to emerge into, and the astounding relationship we get to enjoy with them! That’s the main point. Anyone whose primary interest is that their child obey them is a narcissistic sociopath.

Do we want them to learn to heed our voice, lest they burn their hand on the stove or dart in the street and get smacked by a car? Of course! Because all of that protects them and facilitates relationship. But that is not the same as enforcing “first-time obedience” in some sort of patriarchal power structure so they know who’s boss.

Humans in their folly can be very drawn to fortifying their power this way. Some of us endured parents (or coaches, teachers, pastors) who imposed their will in the name of “obedience to authority.” And we wonder why many of us have “authority issues”? Yeah, we can stop wondering!

This path leads to death – of the soul of the one made to submit, and to the relationship itself.

God created us for community.

If we were here to be obedient, wouldn’t Jesus have been delighted with the religious leaders of his day?

They were extremely obedient, but without love. Indeed, they were the only group Jesus blasted, for their selfish, prideful and loveless focus on legalistic adherence to rules without relationship, and for marginalizing, oppressing and excluding those who did not adhere to the list.

Remember, it’s God’s kindness that leads us to repentance. Kindness is relational.

We are here on planet earth to be in relationship – with God and others. Period.

Blind obedience to parents, to a pastor, to the Bible, is not healthy. It’s idolatry.

Set your heart free… focus on relationship.”


Spoiler Alert!

He wins!
even though some days this may feel like the only victory you can grab onto, it’s enough!

a recent prayer of mine: thank You that You’ve already paid the price and won the war. we can have confidence in knowing our life isn’t just a series of ups and downs with no reward. life isn’t defined by the last circumstance we dealt with or even the circumstance we are dealing with right now. You made us and this world we live in … we know the ending … no one can quash Your purpose for my life or anyone else’s!

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
‭‭John‬ ‭16:33‬

But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭15:57‬

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The Sun Is Rising

Let’s Clarify Something

if you know me well, you know I do not have any reservation in sharing my feelings or thoughts. One thing I hate, is when I’m misunderstood and then decisions are based on that misunderstanding. so I tend to ask a lot of questions and explain exactly where I’m coming from so there are no misconceptions. I like to call these clarifying questions or statements. without them, misunderstanding abounds much.
this most definitely applies to my relationship with Christ. He hears a lot from me and in return, He speaks. one aspect of my relationship between Creator and Creation is friendship. just as I relate and get to know others, He wants the same.

ask the questions, the answers may surprise you!

For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭14:33a

see also:
It Does Exist

(if I hadn’t unplugged yesterday)

I Never Want This Moment To End …

… because I never know when I’ll have this again. 

Christmas morning wonder! with tears streaming down my face, I look at my family. a blessing one can never describe. can I just keep them in this moment? laughing, smiling, talking, loving on each other. no other place to be, no outside world demanding our attention. just pure FAMILY! I live for these moments! 

Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!‭
1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:8‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Be Careful Of Your Reasoning

when we try to figure out what God is doing, it’s like we cut Him off at the knees. I believe He is always working behind the scenes on our behalf but we tend to get in the way. instead, we need to trust Him in His infinite wisdom and live each moment with confidence. what we may think is wrong is most likely a step in the right direction because His ways are not the ways of the world! we’d all be in a better place if we’d just stay out of His way!

For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength. (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭1‬:‭25‬ NIV)

Bad Medicine

in our formative years, we were taught to not hang with the “wrong” crowd. and as adults we need to be careful who we call friends. why? “because bad company corrupts good character.” we must realize that even though our character may be hard-wired by the time we’ve reached the age we are, our choices need to continue to build-on that character. I, still, never want to be at the wrong place at the wrong time (or any time!)

Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭15‬:‭33‬ NIV)

Facts Of Life


(I found these wise words in my son’s math notebook)

someone asked me the other day why I liked math so much. I said it was because it is factual. the answer is always the answer. you don’t have to question it, when the answer is correct. (which is exactly what a rule-following girl like myself needs)
I have found though, that life is not as black and white as I would like. every problem is different dependent on the variables involved, which really means there are an infinite number of solutions to be had. BUT this is not justification to behave in a way contrary to what the bible teaches. it just means our problems have lessons within them to be learned and dealt with [fact] in a way that glorifies Him and matures us and above all else [fact] is solved in love!

I love what I read about math the other day… “the proof of the answers can be found within the problem!” and that is why math nerds can be so confident of their answers. solve your equations using the facts!

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭10‬:‭31‬ NIV)

But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. (‭1 John‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬ NLT)

see also:
Three Sixteen