ever have a moment when you know you need to apologize but for some reason or another you try to talk yourself out of it? this happened to me not that long ago. my reasons were quite valid to rule in favor of “nope, not gonna do it” reasons like:
*it will fall on deaf ears
*I’ll look weak
*it won’t make a difference
*it’s not my place
*she hurt me
*what if the apology isn’t “accepted”
*what if my motivation is misinterpreted
*too much time has passed
…and I could list many more but the truth of the matter is none of them are significant when the Lord speaks. even if all the reasons listed above were true (and they were), it all boiled down to pride and fear and obedience. was I going to put my pride and fear aside, in order to obey the One I live for? Yes!
so, I did. I even went old school and wrote a letter. this way I wouldn’t know any thing more than my part. it wasn’t about the person I was apologizing to, it was about me and my ability to hear Him and take action.
the result: assurance I did the right thing and freedom to move on!
I love the way a member of Life.Church put it “Realizing your part in your struggle—then apologizing for it—is the first step on the path out.”
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.
James 5:16 ESV